What happens when two people love each other?but their families don?t get along? For starters, it makes having a wedding that much more complicated. Sure, we?re all used to family quibbles, but you?re probably only thinking of your blood (or adopted) relatives. It?s not the same when two different dynasties disagree. And depending on how far the two sides stray, things can get a little messy when you?re planning a gathering of the two, such as a wedding or its related events.

If you?re lucky, both of your families get along just fine, or they might have some opposing opinions but don?t interact much. If you lie on the other side, however, you might be facing Romeo- and Juliet-style drama. Most commonly, however, is somewhere in-between.

So, how do you deal with that when it comes to your special day? Ideally, you want to do everything to soothe the situation from the start and take all the necessary steps to avoid drama. In most cases, that means compromising and keeping a cool head.

Consider a Limited Capacity Venue or Destination Wedding

Use the excuse of a limited venue capacity to be picky with who gets an invite and who doesn?t. If you think someone might cause chaos at your wedding, save money on the stationary and just invite them out to drinks at another point to celebrate with them.

You can also take this a step further by having a destination wedding, as not everyone will be able to attend a celebration overseas. However, should you want someone specific there, you might want to come up with an arrangement on the sidelines.

Be Smart with Seating Charts

create a seating chart, but spend a good amount of time arranging it. Make sure your partner chimes in too, as two minds are better than one.

The same applies to internal family arguments. For example, it might be weird if your mom and dad don?t sit together, but you could provide a ?buffer? by seating one person between them and it won?t seem weird at all.

Compromise When Possible

Compromise and communication are key to a quibble-free wedding. This may mean saying yes to one thing from your family and saying yes to something else from your partner?s family. If you take the time to brainstorm, you might even discover a solution that?ll keep both sides happy. And if you don?t, you might have to say no to both. For example, if religion is the subject, skip the church wedding altogether and go for a neutral non-secular venue and officiant. Do remember that this is just ONE day, and small sacrifices might be worth it for a peaceful future.

Limit Interaction with Plenty of Entertainment

skip the wedding altogether and elope. Just follow up with your friends and family afterward and arrange a more intimate gathering at a later time so no one feels left out.

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