Read the Room

Along with being open, it can be very helpful to be able to read the room, if you will, and adapt to the scenarios around you. Stay true to your personality and who you are, of course, but adapt to the energy you?re feeling around you.

If it seems like your in-laws like to have a quiet hour after dinner to hang out and relax, that may not be the best time to suggest blasting some karaoke tunes. Bringing your own flavor and unique character to your new family is essential, but being able to figure out the best times to do that will make a huge difference as well, and will most likely make the process of fitting into this new group of people much faster and easier.

Establish Practices to Build Rapport

Have you heard that your mother-in-law just adores going to the theatre? Is your sister-in-law obsessed with finding new coffee places? Take them! It can be super helpful to figure out things that both you and your in-laws enjoy, and then take the time to make a habit of doing those things!

It doesn?t have to be expensive, or cost any money at all. It can even be as simple as finding a TV show you both love and then texting them about the latest episode after it airs. Simple things like this help to establish rapport and give you all common ground to start to build your relationships.

It may seem like a simple thing, but sometimes with time and consistency, the simplest things become the most special.

Embrace Their Traditions

traditions of your spouse?s family. Who knows, you may find that you like some of them so much that you want to continue them in your family, too!

Give it Time

Probably the most important thing to remember as you pursue relationships with your in-laws is that, like any relationship, it will take time. It may take consistency and a little bit of grace for all involved before you start to really feel like you fit in with your new family, and that?s okay.

It?s all a part of the process and if you have patience and keep at it you are much more likely to have a positive relationship for years to come! Soon enough, it may be hard to even remember those days when you felt awkward or out of place. When in doubt, just give it time!

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